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Dealing with a Broken Heart

Leaving a relationship can be messy, but it doesn’t hold a candle to what follows it. Grieving is a natural process, and you should always recognize and embrace it. Not doing so means letting the sadness, loneliness, guilt, and shame linger and adopting unhealthy coping methods.

Once you’ve accepted the grief with open arms, here’s what you can do about your broken heart.

Don’t Linger; Move On

Don’t linger on what’s already in the past. You may feel a lot of animosity towards your ex but remember it’s all in the past. Thinking about getting back at them will only prolong your griefs, and sometimes cause you to become physically ill.

Move on from your failed relationship, both in mind and action. Take it as a well-learned lesson, as the don’ts of a lasting relationship. Try to avoid what felled your last relationship in the next one, and, most importantly, look forward to the future. You are, after all, going into it with your eyes wide open.

Prioritize Yourself

Self-care has the power to boost physical and emotional health, which is precisely what you need during this difficult time. Although the concept of good self-care is unique for everyone, you might want to adopt some objectively healthy habits, such as:

  • Regular exercise
  • Healthy diet
  • Meditation
  • Socializing

The most important thing, however, is to be kind to yourself your own self and others. Don’t think about nurturing a lasting relationship with a romantic partner, not when you’re getting over a breakup. Focus on nurturing a lasting relationship with yourself and the people around you, say, family, friends, and neighbors.

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Don’t Write Off Your Past

A relationship has highs, lows, and in-betweens. It’s a collection of the good, the bad, the ugly, and the mundane. This, more than anything, is why you shouldn’t write it off entirely. It’s okay to be resentful if you’re fresh out of a breakup, but not so okay to suppress other instincts. Allow yourself to feel overwhelmed by the gaping void they’ve left in your life and revel in the happy memories.

Be grateful that it happened because it brought you joy once upon a time. Embracing the redeeming aspects of your past relationship is an important part of moving on because it means you won’t be taken off guard when they come up later in life, say when you see your ex again.

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